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Come to one of
the assertiveness groups being run in France to identify
why you allow others to walk over you and tell you what
to do. Some women imagine that these groups are peopled
by
aggressive feminists or timid, shrinking violets but actually,
they are attended by people like you.
Women are brought
up to nurture and this can mean that they are
conditioned to bend their own wills for the greater good
of others or to agree, even when they know that they are
right, or to ignore bullying or domineering behaviour
without saying anything for fear of upsetting others. Many will feel that they won't be loved or
valued unless they are subservient to some degree.
These
groups may not necessarily change that but you will at least
recognise the way that you relate to others and at best
you will be able to assert yourself without crippling
guilt or fear of rejection. Your life can change for the
better so that you are able to say what you want
assertively and without upsetting others - it's
up to you to learn how to make that happen.
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